Keeping It Fresh

Extracted with permission from

“The Art of Creating Alpha Males“

CHAPTER 10

5 Ways To Get A Man and Keep Him & 5 Ways to Use His Instincts Advantageously

      8. Use His Instincts – Convince him he is an alpha

Latin women often know their men very well and control them beautifully. Hot blooded and sexual, in touch with their instincts and not overly analytical, they can sometimes demonstrate masterful control.

I was lazing by a motel pool once and on the nearest banana chairs to me there was a couple. He was middle-aged and very average looking, while she was perhaps five years his junior and although no oil painting she still exhibited the remnants of an attractive youth. I later learned she was Argentinean while he was Italian.

“Hey, Manny,” she purred coolly.

Lost in blissful peace as the sun cooked him, her husband rolled his head toward her.

“That girl over there,” she went on, nodding faintly toward the far side of the pool, “She keeps looking at you.”

Manny looked and so did I. On the other side of the pool in the shade rested a young woman, I estimated still in her twenties, definitely sexually appealing and definitely not looking in Manny’s direction. Manny shared my confusion and frowned long and hard at the girl to ascertain if his wife was correct.

“No,” he concluded quietly and went back to dozing.

A minute dragged by before his wife spoke again, this time with sing-song-sultry amusement, “There she is, looking at you again.”

Manny and I looked round at the girl more quickly this time…No, unless she was particularly alert she was definitely not looking his way.

“You’re crazy,” grinned Manny.

“No, I’m not. Whenever you look up she looks away. I tell you, that girl is hot for you.”

Manny and I both went back to frowning toward the girl…No, not only did she not seem to be looking his way, it seemed highly unlikely that a voluptuous, attractive girl in her twenties would be eying off an average-looking, middle-aged man in the company of his wife.

“No she’s not,” said Manny, although for the first time I detected real interest in his voice, and he was still staring at her.

“I tell you, Manny, she wants you. Look at her, she is lonely, she wants an attractive man. You should go over there and chat to her.”

“What?”

“Yes, go. Young women that age they love mature men like you.”

“I’m not going over there.” “Just flirt with her a bit. It will make her day. Really. When I was her age I loved men your age.”

Manny rested back and although he had sunglasses on I guessed he was still studying the girl. About five minutes went by and Manny suddenly got up. I thought, ‘Oh, no, this is it, he is actually going to go over there and chat to that girl. This is going to be embarrassing.’ But instead Manny reached down a hand to his wife, and gave her a naughty grin. She looked at the hand and returned the flavor of his invitation with a sexual smirk. She giggled as he pulled her to her feet and they grabbed their towels and scurried up to their room.

Wow, I thought, I have just watched a real professional at work.

With Anglicized women I have sometimes witnessed the opposite technique and outcome, where at the dinner table and in front of guests they will sometimes make reference to their lack of a sex life, this while their spouse is present. Usually it is done in a joking fashion, but nevertheless it is done, and cruel words cannot be unsaid. Their attack may be caused by genuine sexual frustration or a pining for affection, the poor logic being that if her private taunts do not extract results then perhaps a public flogging is more in order.

There is a saying – “Words that soak into your ears are whispered…not yelled.” The gentle and playful manipulations of the Argentinean woman on her husband were infinitely more fruitful and intelligent than a barbed quip across a dinner table. It does not take a big person to carry a grudge, so the quip, in fact, often produces this response, “My wife doesn’t understand me.” Although this phrase is usually whispered to a mistress’s ear, not to the other guests at the table, or, as Confucius says, “Wife who put husband in doghouse soon find him in cathouse.”

A wife punishing a husband’s neglect this way is a visceral route but as with prohibition, if you are really trying to control something then the most counter-productive thing you can do is suppression. The smart approach is to figure a management strategy that will get you the results you require. Men are uncomplicated creatures as many a joke on the internet infers. ‘Show up naked and bring beer’ being only the tip of the iceberg, while in contrast women are depicted as highly complex, neurotic souls.

Manipulating women, therefore, is a real art that only few men dare attempt, but women manipulating men? It should be child’s play, because it is basically child psychology, and women are already gifted with that ability for motherhood.

There are only two ingredients needed – know what an alpha male is, and convince your man he is one. Much of this book has been devoted to describing an alpha male, but surprisingly many women would not know one if they fell over him. The alpha male comes in as many forms as there are circumstances.

At a rock concert he is the one with the long hair gyrating on the stage and pelvic thrusting at the audience. In a law firm he is the smug one dicing up the opposition with his vitriolic tongue. In a five star hotel kitchen he is the one with the funny hat throwing tantrums while he perfects the banquet. The one thing all of these men have in common? They have reached the top of their field. If you are in that field, they are the ones running the show, they’re the alphas, and even if they do not use the breeding rights, they have them available to them much more so than for other men.

But how many men are rock stars, successful lawyers, or champion chefs? How many of us really excel at anything? Most of us are just run-o-the-mill guys. Sure, we would all like to be alpha males (’cause in our fantasies they’re the ones who get the negligee models) but alas few of us are that talented. Any humble woman can in fact turn any humble man into an alpha male, and if they do so, the gratitude that is heaped upon them is infinitely more rewarding than the grudging compliance of a spouse forced to toe-the-line.

Celebrate your man, make him a legend, boast about him to others in front of him, boast about him to him. He is a hunter whose instincts urge him to spread his seed widely. So rather than feeling threatened by the opposition and afraid your man has a roving eye, point out attractive women to him. Make saucy comments about how much he would like to have sex with them and how much they would enjoy it. It is a fiction, yes, but a pleasant one that reaps rewards.

Men, like dogs, are basically lazy, and he would rather sit on the porch in the sun watching his street, content he is home with his loved ones, than out roaming in a competitive world where he knows perfectly well he is highly fallible. If he is an alpha male in his own mind, then he has reached his own summit, satisfied his instincts, and is content. It really is that simple.

Any man with a lick of commonsense will occasionally tell his partner how beautiful she is, even if he is secretly not that enamored. Why? Because he knows it makes her feel desirable. What is being offered here is the flip side of the coin – the way a woman returns the favor to her partner and how it gets similar results. Many women think that ‘because he is a man’ he can take being routinely insulted about his manhood. Ask yourself, how would you like it if he joked about your ugliness from time to time?

An unfaithful man is a man who has need of proving himself to himself. Do the job for him and you have a man who will not stray. After all, he is with you in the first place because you are the one he likes the most.

 

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